a dash of ash

november 11 2021

Realize that you are not the center of their attention, even if they are yours. Just because you have the free time to worry and think, doesn’t mean they do at that specific  moment. Don’t jump to the assumption that you’re being ignored and they don’t care. 

Know when to stop putting energy into relationships that you do not receive energy from. You’re not only wasting your own energy, but you may be overwhelming them. Sometimes you feel the need to retreat into yourself, why can’t they?

Something ill-executed doesn’t signify that it was ill-intentioned. There have been times when you acted or spoke in the heat of the moment, either frustrated or just not thinking. Why can’t others be held to the same expectation as you? Why do you only allow room for yourself to make mistakes, but not others?

If negativity or ignorance seems to be a theme, why continue to tolerate it? Don’t. This is an act of self-malice, if anything. Giving into blind hopefulness, providing an infinite amount of chances to those who haven’t earned it is self-depreciating.

Realize that others put themselves first, just as you do. As humans, we are inherently selfish. Even when we do things for others, there is often an ulterior motive. Even if that motive is love, we’re still doing it for a sense of self-fulfillment. Be conscious of this. 

Do not try to force things to fall into place as soon as you feel you are ready for them. Things will happen when they’re supposed to. When it is certain you are ready. Be patient. 

Do not hold others to a higher expectation than yourself. This allows for you to very easily break your own heart, as there is more dependency and hopefulness regarding others. It also establishes a very distrusting and judgemental persona. Are others not allowed to go through the same struggles and emotions as you, and receive understanding? Why? What makes you better than them? Most importantly, why would you hold yourself to a lower expectation than others? What makes you incapable of achieving the same things that you expect from others? This train of thought diminishes your significance in your own life.

Think of yourself, consider others.

xoxo, Ash